by Comprehensive Staff

08/19/2015 5:54 pm

You Can't Spoil Your Kids with Too Much Time

Time for kidsYou can’t spoil your kids with your time.

Over the years I have worked with families who have struggled with trying to find a balance in meeting the day to day demands of life and helping their kids deal with behavior problems, depression, drug use, anxiety and trauma.  What I have found is we are sometimes trying to balance things that are not of equal value or importance. 

It is pretty easy to choose between something that is clearly good and something that is clearly bad.  The real art of parenting is choosing between two good things, finding the one that is best.  Lynn Johnston the creator of “For Better or For Worse” comic strip is brilliant in the above (below) strip.  John is asking a simple question. “Do I spend enough time with my (kid)?” She helps us look more closely at one of the best things we can do for our kids, be with them.  It does not cost any money to play with your child, to sit and listen to them tell a story about something or to explain their favorite toy, car, type of music, etc. 
We have all heard the saying “People don’t care what you know, until they know that you care.”  So find, no, make the time to just sit with your kid on the floor if they are young, or hang out with your teenager.  The teenage one will be a little awkward at first, but you will figure it out.

We only have a short while to influence our kids and to let them know (by showing) we love them.  They are on their own far longer that they are with us. 
Yes, this is a little preachy, but as a therapist at Comprehensive for 23 years I have seen my share of kids who really only want mom or dad’s time and to hear the words, “I love you.”  We cannot love our kids too much when we give them something that is free, time.